Perfection and Dating

I see you as perfect.

Never date someone you see as "perfect". First, if you view someone as "perfect", you are therefore putting them on a pedestal, proud of what you have gained and see them as an item to show off to your friends and family. You will initially be blinded by what you see and may accept their mistreatment or cruelty to you.

Second, the "perfect" person will inevitability do something not-so-perfect. Something that will entirely gross you out, shock you, or shake your whole opinion of them. The "perfect" person image is fragile - and likely to be destroyed far too easily.

Third, when one person in a relationship is seen as "perfect", there is inherently a satisfaction with the relationship. This person is already at 100% so there is little need for the growth or change. Growth and change is the foundation for helping to create a positive and deeper relationship. Thinking someone is perfect immediately endangers the relationship.

You see me as perfect.

How awful would it be on the other side to live up the expectations or images that have been placed upon you by your significant other? If someone is being perceived as perfect, then the relationship isn't on the same page, and likely isn't balanced, especially if the perfection image is only being projected on one person. A single person can't carry the weight of expectation. If someone accepts it, then they are probably egotistical and not quite invested in the relationship for the interest of the other person.

We're perfect together!

In using the word "perfect", the real goal is to find someone that is perfect for you. After all, no one is perfect, but the goal is to find someone that works well for you, not fulfill every fantasy that you have decided upon. You should both be accepting of each others' mistakes and flaws, continue to grow together and keep each other honest.